One week ago, I started what I call a Confidence Bootstrap with the goal of helping 500 people through coaching and conversation.
I’ve had around 50 calls so far, and apart from the personal stories that every individual brings along and the journey they luckily allow me to be a tiny speck in, there are a few topics that stood out that can assure some people that they’re not alone – here are five:
Many people have one and don’t like it, or don’t have one at all and are struggling to even land that first interview.
A recurring topic that’s holding a lot of people back. Having dealt/dealing with it personally, I know how destructive it can sometimes be.
I recommend watching this TED Talk by Mike Cannon-Brookes about how you can use imposter syndrome to your benefit.
Not knowing what they want in life
A lot of people are overwhelmed by thinking they lead a purposeless life and believing they should have complete clarity on their life’s mission and direction as early as possible.
Being slow to launch startups
Being at a complete halt while trying to figure everything out in a venture/startup and trying to iron out all the nitty-gritty details before moving forward; only losing time and delaying/decreasing the possibility of their success as a result.
Making big decisions
The fear of not making the right life choice is leading to a lot of inaction and lost time.
In Ryan Holiday’s book, Ego is the Enemy, he says:
There are two types of time in our lives: dead time, when people are passive and waiting, and alive time, when people are learning and acting and utilizing every second. Every moment of failure, every moment or situation that we did not deliberately choose or control, presents this choice: Alive time. Dead time.
When you find yourself stuck on the sidelines and unable to decide, the choice is always up to you, whether you’d like to stay in dead time, or change your narrative and step into alive time.
You may find an interesting take on making big decisions in this TED Talk by Ruth Chang on “How to make hard choices.”
Those are just some of the recurring highlights of the conversations I’ve been having and I’m grateful to those who are opening up and are sharing their thoughts with me for I’ve been personally gaining a lot in the process. Thank you for inspiring me.
I still have over 400 free spots open, so book me for your Confidence Bootstrap here.